What If You Don’t Love Your Body?

Posted by on May 26, 2015 in Blog | 2 comments

Tender Middle Aged WomanYou may have noticed an emerging trend that is all about embracing your curves, appreciating the body you have, enjoying your body at every size, and loving yourself no matter what you weigh.

And, if you are like me, you’ve seen these women on your Facebook (or Instagram or Twitter) feed, fighting the bullies back, taking their selfies on the beach in their imperfect bodies in their bikinis and you think “good for them!”

And then you look down at your belly, or you see yourself in the mirror, or you catch a picture of your double-chin and, crestfallen, you realize that, yes, you are happy for them, but somehow that standard doesn’t apply to you.

Because your too tight jeans are not okay. Because you aren’t capable of loving this body. Because you still need to be smaller. Better. Fitter. Prettier. Different. Fixed. Not. This.

It’s just so easy to cheer on those other women for loving their bodies no matter what, but when it comes to ourselves, out comes that uber-judgy, self-critical voice that just won’t shut the heck up. What’s up with that?

I hear you. I really do. I want you to know that I get it. And I know how much you want to love yourself no matter what, and that you want to love your body as is. And I want you to know that it’s okay if you aren’t quite there yet. If you aren’t quite ready yet.

You can’t force yourself to wake up one morning and love it. Let me say that again. You can’t will yourself to love your body.

But here are some things you can do.

First, you can set the intention to love yourself and your body. You can give yourself a little more love each day. A little mental hug. Some gratitude and appreciation to your body and all that it does.

And then you can start living your life. You can set aside the angst. You can set aside the anxiety about not loving yourself and simply start creating a life that you love. Yes, that you can do.

Summer is right around the corner. And you have a choice. You can sit around at home wishing you felt better about yourself so you could be outside having fun with everyone else. Or you could just be having fun with everyone else.

You can spend your evenings at the gym, punishing yourself with exercise until you think your body is worthy of being seen in public – or you can get out and enjoy life!

Yes, eating healthy, moving your body, being fit, feeling healthy, feeling good are important and wonderful. But when you cross over the line into the land of feeling unworthy of pleasure, fun, laughter and joy because you didn’t lose the weight or because you don’t fit into last year’s clothes, that’s when it’s time to stop and ask yourself some serious questions.

Because, really, if you decide to simply let it go, forgive yourself, move on, and go out and live your life, what’s the worst thing that can happen? An amazing, fun-filled, adventurous, enchanting summer? Huh, I could live with that – how about you?


  1. Wow Ann,
    I loved reading your post! I have several clients that could really use this beautiful message. Not to mention friends and family.
    If it is okay with you I would love to share this post with all those I have in mind.
    I would also love to connect with you via phone if that works.

    • Gina,
      Thank you so much! Of course, you are welcome to share. I’d love to connect with you. I will contact you via email. I’m so glad this message resonated with you.

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